You know so much gets put into losing weight that women forget to enjoy life itself! For so long my wife’s focus was on losing weight that life simply passed her by for about 3 years. This weekend we decided to take a mini vacation to Ft. Lauderdale where we stayed at the B Hotel.
This was a great break for the both of us as we needed a break from our busy lives. With her working more hours then she cares too and me working full-time and running this site we tend to be very busy. It was great to unwind, relax and not have to worry about anything for a couple of days.
Are You Really Enjoying Life?
This is a question I ask because I remember a few years ago it seemed as though nothing my wife did made her “happy”. Being a man, she said I just didn’t understand where she was coming from. I was lost I didn’t understand if we were going on vacations, she was spending time with her girlfriends, and getting promoted at her job how she couldn’t be happy.
My wife was sick of how her body looked and how it made her feel. It didn’t matter how beautiful I told her she looked in the inside it was killing her. She hated her wide hips and thighs simply because nothing she bought ever seemed to fit and how nothing see did seemed to change her shape.
If she found clothing that fit her thighs and hips they were too big in the waist or the clothing just didn’t fit right at all. She would spend hours in the gym, go running 5 times a week and still there was no change. She felt miserable to say the least.
Those Where The Days
Gone are the days (not all of them) of my wife being upset with how she looked. She has been able to make drastic changes in her appearance and she is enjoying life to the fullest. It’s amazing how something like losing weight can have such an effect on a person.
She doesn’t have to worry about starving herself and enjoys eating all the foods she used to eat before. The difference now is that she has found a diet (read here) that works for her so she doesn’t feel like the odd ball when she goes out. She no longer spends hours in the gym doing cardio only to not see any results. Three times per week she does her turbulence training and in 20-30mins tops she’s done.
The weight has continuously come off and she is looking and feeling as beautiful and confident as ever. No her hips and thighs are not completely where she wants them but she knows what works for her and each week she is seeing continuous improvement.
This was a photo I took from the room window on Memorial Day. The horizon and sunrise reminds me of a new beginning for my wife, myself and this site. What gives you a sense of a new beginning?
This Weekend Was A Simple Reminder
For me it was a simple reminder of how far my wife had come over the years. The fear of going to the beach, wearing a bikini, going shopping or simply wearing a particular dress that made her insecure are almost completely gone. Not only is she losing weight but she’s happy, which is the most important thing of all!
She has found a balance in life that allows her to not have to kill herself in the gym, spend long hours doing cardio and most of all gives her results. Life shouldn’t be just about losing weight but its amazing how losing weight allows some people to actually live life.
Find your balance and enjoy life!
Last week I did a post about how men and women differ when it comes to losing weight and working out. I thought it would be better to get input from readers before I actually finished the post. A lot of people replied to the post both men and women.
Overall I would say that it would seem that women don’t like doing activities for fun if it’s going to get categorized as exercise and you seem to let one mishap mess up an entire week.
So What Does This Mean?
I’m not expert but this would seem to be a problem with a person’s way of thinking. Whether you want to believe me or not before you will ever lose weight you are going to have to change the way you think. The first step in fat or weight loss is not getting a gym membership, counting calories or even the food you eat.
Know instead the biggest battle you are going to face in the battle of losing weight is your mind. It’s all about the way you perceive things to be and changing the way you view things. Your current attitude and opinions about weight loss, dieting, exercising and activity has to be taken into account before you can move on.
It’s a Marathon Not a Sprint
The feelings and beliefs you have about eating healthy and fat loss have to be adjusted to realistic terms before anything else is even considered. Why, because losing weight and keeping it off is about a lifestyle change and is a long term commitment. You have seen people lose weight and then in a few months they are back to gaining the weight again.
Doing activities outside of the gym and being active doesn’t have to be negative or even boring. But in order for it to work you have to change your views about them. Instead of thinking of volleyball, running or swimming as working out think of them as things you enjoy doing (pick something you enjoy doing!)
When you are playing tennis or eating smaller portions think about how great you look and feel rather than focusing on the negative aspects.
You Owe Yourself That Much
The one thing you have to remember is that you first have to make a commitment to yourself and stick with it. There is no need going to the gym if you are going to consistently go out with friends and over eat and drink empty calories.
You must be willing to make a commitment to yourself and let go all of the negative feelings you have about weight loss, calorie counting and working out. Instead be positive and look at all the wonderful things that will come about from your new lifestyle.
Not only will you get stronger, feel better, and have more energy but you will look awesome! You have to be realistic and not let roadblocks get you down. We all have roadblocks but its how you deal with them that matters most. Stay the course, be realistic, and most of all accept the fact that fat loss takes time and patience.
Everyone messes up but one “BAD” meal or day should not RUIN the ENTIRE week!
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