How Others Affect You

Losing Weight and the People Around You

Whenever women are trying to lose weight is it very important that they pay attention to the people that they have in their lives.  I’m not suggesting that you have to change all your friends and get rid of your boyfriend or husband but you have to be careful.  Not everyone is looking out for your best interest.

This picture has nothing to do with the post but I thought is would be nice since it is St. Patrick’s Day!

In my life I have realized that there are generally three types of people when it comes to getting help:  dream crushers, the on-lookers, and positive up-lifters.   I am sure that in your life at some point you have met all three and when it comes to you losing weight it will be no different.

Losing Weight Around the Dream Crushers

First of all the dream crusher is the person who thinks that world revolves around them.  They never seem to have anything nice to say about anyone or anything.  They will be the ones that will talk about you behind your back and put you down.  Losing weight is already difficult enough but they will add that extra weight that you don’t need.

These are the people who will usually say, “You can’t do this”, “It’s impossible” or my favorite “I tried and it didn’t work for me”.   Dream crushers will criticize you about everything from working out too much, not enough, you are eating wrong or you are not eating enough.  Dream crushers never have anything positive to say about anything you do.

The sad part is that some of them do it on purpose just to make you feel bad or in hopes that you don’t succeed in completing your goals.  Sometimes it’s just the fact that they fear that you may accomplish something that they couldn’t.

Losing Weight With Positive Up-lifters

Positive Up-Lifters are those who are always looking for ways to encourage you to stay on task and always have positive feedback.  They want you to lose your weight and are looking for any and every way in which they can help.  Not only will they listen but they will even try to find and recommend thins they think will be of use to you.

Positive up-lifters may just be your angel in disguise that you need to help get you through your weight loss program.  These are the people that want to see you achieve your dreams and will be the ones to cheer you on when you reach your goals.

When you are down they will be the ones to pick you up and let you know things will be okay and that you can do this.  Losing weight is not easy and everyone can you someone every now and then.

The On-Lookers

Have you ever seen someone that never seems to have an opinion of their own?  Well these are the people I tend to call the on-lookers.  They aren’t dream crushers nor or they positive up-lifters and they kind of fall where the chips lay.  They are the women around in the group that are always quiet and can easily be swayed to one side or the other.

Sometimes it seems as if they are all about helping you and cheering you on and the next thing you know there are the main ones telling you to quit or that is impossible.  They never voice their own opinions on things that would seem to matter most.

How it Affects You and Your Weight Loss

My belief is that the people around you help make you who you are.  If majority of the people you are around drink you will tend to be a drinker (not always the case). We need to know what kind of people we have around as they play a major role in the decisions me make in our life.

Look at your goal of losing weight, getting in shape, or simply doing anything for that matter.  What do you have around you?  Are you around dream crushers, the on-lookers, or positive up-lifters?  If you find yourself mostly around dream crushers then that may just one of the reasons you goals have been taking so long to complete.