Just what has been going on?

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Well like I stated I haven’t updated the site in a while other than a post I made a few days ago.  To be honest I just got lazy and started putting everything else first and not making time to blog.  My wife has lost another 2lbs pounds and I am really excited for her.

So as far as me being missing in action for a couple of months here is the short run down of things that went on.  My son’s birthday was in June so there was planning for that along with looking for a new jobs which I currently work at.  Of course with looking for a new job we had to make plans for how my son was going to spend summer break and then came father’s day.

Along Came the Fourth of July…Fireworks

Well unlike everyone else who celebrates the 4th I tend to do it a little bit different.  You see for the country the 4th of July is a way to celebrate Independence Day but for my brother and I it’s our birthday.  So July became a busy month in planning for trips and having a nice party for the two of us.  NO we aren’t twins he was just born on my birthday and I guess you can say he was the biggest present I have gotten so far.

August Just Seemed to Fly By…No sure What happened

August was just one of those months that I really don’t remember much of what happened.  It came and went and to be honest all I remember is putting in my two weeks notice at my old job and my son starting middle school.  Other than that the month was a blur.

Sin City in September…A Few Friends and I Did Vegas for Labor Weekend

A couple of my close friends and I went to Vegas and partied like there was no tomorrow.  I think there should be a law against the amounts of alcohol we drank while we were there.  We arrived on Thursday and from that point on it was not stop fun.  Eating, drinking, partying, and we sleep whenever we could (not much sleep happened though).

We Decided We Should Have a Little One

And of course the biggest thing that happened while I was away from blogging was that my wife and I decided to have a baby.  Well we want to try so that before the end of the year she is actually pregnant.  This one what most of my time spent on which was focusing on what we need to do and how we need to plan.  More about that in a later post and more about our upcoming trip as well.  Of course we will always talk about weight loss and diets.  Until later enjoy your week.

 

Its Been a Long Time…but I’m BACKKKK!!!!

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So sorry for the Long Break Let Me Explain

Ok well there’s no excuse I just haven’t written on my site for almost six months just because I didn’t make time for it.  To be honest for a minute I got tired of updating and dealing with all the spam I was getting.

I don’t think I have updated my site since June…hmmm let me think?   Yeah it was June because I didn’t even say Happy Father’s day to anyone on the site.  Well while I was away a lot of great things have been happening.  I got a new job, my son starting playing acoustic guitar, I went to Las Vegas for a week, and my wife and I decided that this year we are planning to have our first child together.

Things won’t be the Same as they Were

Yes the blog well still focus on weight loss for women, you will still get up dates on how my wife is doing and what programs she is using I will also still update with pictures of her and us from time to time.  The changes will be that I plan to be a little more personal so that people know that I am a real person, I am married to a loving women, have a great son, and though I try to help my wife with her weight loss there is always a road block from time to time.

The great new is that I will also be updating more regularly and giving you shorter post so that you can read the without fearing a 700 word post to drive you insane.  This site is for the ladies though it’s being written from a husband’s point of view.  Remember guys you have to give you input as well be our girl friend or wife needs to understand how we feel as well.  Remember if she goes through it you go through so it’s best to make it as painless as possible.

Come back soon And I will have a post about the BABY!!!!

Yeah we are planning to have a baby…ok working it anyways.  But I want to let you in on some of the discussions and concerns both my wife and I have had and hopefully to get some input from YOU.  Look forward to being back!!!!

Her Weight Gain – But It’s All My Fault

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As crazy as this title may seem to you this is the life my wife and I lived for almost three years. After hearing from her that the reason she had gain weight and couldn’t lose it was because of me I actually started believing it.

Finger Pointing it the Person

You know, I knew better but when you start hearing something over and over again you start to believe it even when you shouldn’t.

It all started just before we were engaged and my wife (girlfriend at the time) was starting to put on some weight.  At first things were cool because she could still fit into her clothes and will no one else had made one of those crazy comments like “when is the baby due or OMG your pregnant”.  That all changed in a matter of weeks though.

The clothes that went from fitting correctly to fitting a little snug where now it was just simply un-wearable. No matter what no one was making any statements and all of her girlfriends told her she look great and there wasn’t anything to worry about (most of them gaining weight themselves).

They told her it was the process of her getting older and now having a future husband that she cooks for.  It happens to all of them and they kind of just believed it.

Three months went by and my wife went from being around 125lbs to 145lbs and it was all downhill from there. Unlike myself when I gained weight in the past I would be quick to try to lose it to get back to my ideal weight my wife was the complete opposite.  The weight only went upwards from there and the problems really started.

One evening after work I can remember my wife coming home and she was just unhappy.  The conversation went immediately on everything else but I knew that it was the weight that was causing the problem.

Not Pregnant Just Fat

I don’t like beating around the bush so I just came out and said, “You are just unhappy because you are getting fat!” Big mistake!  All hell broke loose in that house and amazingly everything was aimed at me.

From me having too much junk food in the house to her having to cook, as being the reason she was gaining weight in the first place.  “Everyone else tells me how great I look and you just say stop eating this or that! It’s your fault you should be more supportive and love me for who I am!” (ooooouch that hurts even to write).  This went on for months to the point that I was getting blame for everything, nothing was her fault.

The thing is though she went out to lunch every day, went to dinner once or twice a week, was eating dinner at home every night, ate breakfast and grabbed fast foods and most of all was not active.

You see these weren’t things that I caused but rather her life had completely changed.  She was no longer in college so she wasn’t as active as she used to be.  She was working the 8-6 instead of going to classes and now was getting breakfast at work and going to lunch almost every day.

The Blame Game

See these were the changes that were causing her to gain the weight NOT me!  It wasn’t the fact that I ate too much but the fact that she didn’t want to blame herself or situation for getting fat.  And her friends didn’t see anything wrong with it because guess what, they were getting fat as well.

Her weight gain wasn’t may fault at all but since it occurred when WE became one in her eyes I caused it.  It didn’t matter that I stopped having with all the snacks in the house, stopped going out to get fast food, or even started working out and running with her.  Why because she didn’t lose weight and those weren’t the actual problems to begin with.

The problems were the things that she had control of and things she had to change on her own.  It wouldn’t be until she realized that she needed to make a change in herself and be accountable that things would change for the better.  It wouldn’t change until she understood that eating out every day at lunch and going out for drinks and dinner with the girls can cause rapid weight gain.

HER WEIGHT GAIN WAS HER FAULT NOT MINE!