That time as come and again and my wife will soon be having our first. It seems like every time I write something the first things I mention are my wife and our baby. I guess am just so happy and excited. With the happiness I know that there will also be a lot of issues and problems over the course of the next few months after our little one gets here.
Lately my wife has started talking more and more about her going back to the gym and getting her sexy body back she had before she got pregnant. The problem is going to be that things are not going to be the same. And there lies my problem.
No More Eight Hours of Sleep
One of the biggest changes is going to be that no one in the house except the two boys are going to get a full nights rest. With this means my wife is already going to be tired from being up and having to go to work etc. Let me first say that YES I will be helping and not getting any sleep but my wife and I are built different.
I can make it off of 3-4 hours of sleep because that’s just how I roll!! She needs her rest and with wanting to spend time with the little one, working, cooking, and cleaning we are going to have to make sure she gets more then enough rest. I think we may be able to find some time on the weekends for her to take a nap or two but the weekdays are going to be killer.
Eating For Two While Losing for One
My wife and I decided on breastfeeding our baby so for the first few months she needs to make sure she is eating enough so that she gets the nutrients the will cover the both of them. No she isn’t going to over eat but at the same time there is no room for dieting and fasting at this point in my opinion.
This the first time that we will be trying to focus on her weight in years and this comes after a pregnancy which is already hard in itself. Add that she will be still eating for two and trying to lose weight, and we may have a recipe for disaster.
I keep telling her not to worry about her weight but I am sure as women you understand she doesn’t want to hear it. For me, I don’t want her putting too much pressure on herself because I know it will just backfire if things don’t go the way she wants it.
Our Schedule is Going to Be F’ed Up
Yeah I said it! I have been there before and when a baby comes in the house throw everything out the window. What should have happened at 1 will happen at 3 and the nap you thought your baby was going to take isn’t going to happen when it was supposed to. The nap you wanted to take at 5 will happen at 8 and you won’t wake back up until the middle of the night.
My wife has all these high hopes and expectations but the fact is that its going to be hard. It’s not easy and I am trying to find the right balance between being supportive and being realistic.
Thinking about Weight Too Soon
The question I have or wonder about is if my wife is thing about losing pregnancy weight too soon. I mean she hasn’t even have the baby yet and even when she does I think she should give it sometime to get used to things.
It’s easy for me to say but my body didn’t just put on an extra 30+ pounds in 9 months. I want to be as supportive as can be but at the same time I know my wife. When she has a goal it is best to let her go at it while she is focused and not side tracked.
There in is my problem again, do I tell her don’t worry about the weight since I feel like now is not the best time to be focusing on it? Or do I just be supportive and say lets do it know while you are focused. What would you do? If you have had a child what did you do to lose the weight? Did you try working out as soon as you delivered or waited several months?
Well this is my second post this week so I would like to say that I am back but I know that for the most part being back is only as good for the time I am actually here and writing. It’s been a long 18 months or so and I am just getting into the swing of things.
I mentioned in my previous post that I was basically so not feeling the blogging thing. To be honest that was a part of it but mostly it was the dealing with the lost of the baby and supporting my wife who was having a hard time with it.
Blogging Wasn’t Just Blogging
When I started WHAT, the main reason was because I wanted to get better a writing content online and having a voice. Then I met some wonderful people online who were actually making some real money selling products.
Enter the need to write for the purpose of making money online. Let me \tell you that if you are writing just to make some cash you are going to have a hard time keeping up and staying motivated.
I got lost in the shuffle and was only writing what I thought would sell a product and so the means to get better at writing was replaced with the urge to make money.
What Changed and How I Changed
It was about six months of writing, linking, commenting, and be everywhere I possibly could that I learned you can actually make money and I got my first sale. Boy was I happy but the writing wasn’t enjoyable.
Around this time my wife wanted to lose some weight and I figured hey maybe I can get her to listen to me finally. For a change she listened after about 2-5 years of me being frustrated that she would listen to everyone but here significant other.
She started Eat Stop Eat and Turbulence Training and the weight slowly started to drop off. This wasn’t quick fix but something that would be sustainable. When I saw that I could help my wife, I knew I could help others and my mindset changed and I was back to writing to help others.
Why This Is Important for WHAT going Forward
Well I took a break and now I am back and my beautiful wife is pregnant and about to have our first child in April. After the baby she is ready to get back on it and lose all the weight she gained throughout the pregnancy.
I will use this site to help walk you through the ins and outs of how things are going for her and will try to upload as many pictures as she will allow. My plans are to let you know what exercises she is doing, cardio, and meal plan.
What I have planned for Her To Lose Weight
Well she doesn’t know it yet but though I loved the Turbulence Training program she did to lose weight I am going to try a different one this time. The workout she will be using will be Visual Impact for Women and Eat Stop Eat will still be the meal plan of choice.
I hope that you enjoy our journey and this time I have plans to stay. I have actually been trying over the last few days to catch up with some of the bloggers I was friends with and sadly many of them are no longer bloggers.
It could be that they burnt out or like myself had a lot more important issues to deal with. Again my plans this time is to make sure I am here to not only share with you my wife’s journey but also help many of you along the way.
Losing weight is not easy and won’t happen overnight. There are no quick fixes and you will have to change your mindset if you hope to succeed. But again I am here to help and feel free to ask as many questions as you may like. I may not have the answers but I will do my best to find it.
Until next time,
Over the weekend we celebrated my wife’s birthday and boy did she have a great time with her friends and family. She says that her birthday should be celebrated for at least a whole week and on a good bday it should last the whole month.
Of course I would beg to differ only because I am the one that would be left paying for everything and would end up broke. But over this week of celebration I saw her have a great time and I just sat back and watched how everyone seem to do to make the feel good.
What truly makes people have a good time?
As I enjoyed the festivities of my wife’s weeklong celebration of reverse aging I noticed something that was very scary. It seemed as though everyone who was having a great time was consistently eating and eating and then eating some more. I added up all the calories I thought one of her friends consumed in just one day and I swear it was about 3000-4000 calories easily and that didn’t include beverages.
I wondered if they were just having a good time because of the food and drinks or because of the people. It was truly hard to figure out but I really understood more this week why so many people tend to gain weight and not understand why.
Birthday was great but the weekend didn’t end so well
Well my wife had a great time celebrating her 25th birthday (reverse aging lol) with the family, friends and co-workers but things weren’t all great. I had mentioned in a previous post that my wife and I were trying to have a baby and recently we discovered she might be pregnant so she scheduled a visit to her doctor.
However over the weekend she noticed that she was bleeding and though she is pregnant we don’t really know what to expect, as her bleeding could be a sign for a miscarriage. She is just heartbroken at the moment but right now we just aren’t sure what is going to happen.
Well Try to Keep you Updated with Info
I will do my best to keep everyone updated and continue to post. I made a promise to update and post with at least two posts per week so I still expect to be held to my word. Hopefully I will have some good news on the next post.
Incoming search terms:
Remember a about two posts ago I wanted to let my readers know what my wife and I had been discussing for the months where I was M.I.A. One of those things was what should she do as far as losing more and wanting to get pregnant.
The dilemma was that it had already been hard for my wife to lose the last 15-20lbs. She still hates her thighs even though she has lost over 40+ plus over the last few years. Well now she is caught between wanted to get those last few pounds out of the way and getting pregnant.
Really I don’t Know How to Answer This
She asked me a few times what I think she should do? Well to be honest I know what I would do and what I WANT to say but its tough. I have lived with my wife through the ups and downs of her weight but know how much getting pregnant means to her.
I feel as though she is so close to getting to her goal weight that a few more months would be worth it. Then I think of how see looks at little babies and how happy she is when she is around her nephews and nieces. Its easy for me to say just lose the weight and wait but then how long will it really take her to lose the 20lbs. Not to mention no sooner then she loses it she will be putting it back on.
This Really Sucks but is a Great Situation
Yeah this really sucks if you have to help make a decision because I feel like if I say one thing I wont be being honest however if I say wait on getting pregnant and having a baby she might think am just selfish. On the other hand it’s a great situation for the both of us.
If she decides to go after her goal and lose the last few pounds she gets the body she has always wanted (I will be happy too) and on the other hand we will be looking forward to having our on little bundle of joy (of course I will be even more happier).
What do you think is the best thing to do? Would you go with just putting off having a child now and losing the last few pounds or would you just wait on the weight and try to have a baby and lose the weight afterwards?
So this weekend I heard from one of my friend’s who is having some problems in his relationship. His girlfriend has gained some weight over the years and it is really causing a strain on their relationship.
I know, people are going to say something like but if he love her and all this stuff but I am not here to take sides. The truth is he wasn’t the one who was complaining about the weight, SHE WAS!! The problem he has is that not only has she been complaining she hasn’t done anything to change the situation.
Why My Friend Never Said Anything Before
Well, truth be told both of them gained weight since they first met and I mean a lot of weight. Of the years they both kind of just let themselves go and just made excuses for the gain. From being too busy to not having the money for gym memberships.
Eating out and eating out a lot caused them both to easily be 30-60lbs overweight. At one point it seemed at though they both had accepted who they had become. It was a similar situation as the one I experienced with my wife.
But Something Changed and Things Got Worse
What could make to people who love each, gained weight together, and are fighting over nothing become worse? Well, how about when one person starts to lose weight and the other one doesn’t. Talk about issues and long decisions about nothing that wont change.
My friend says that now more then ever they are consistently arguing about things and it seems to always go be to something about weight gain. Whether its not going out to eat as much, needed clothes because he’s getting smaller and she’s getting larger to even her being less secure about the relationship because now she thinks he might cheat on her.
He’s stressed and its Killing them Both
He doesn’t know what to do at this point, he really loves this woman but he’s not happy. The sad part is that he feels that it’s his fault and since they both gained weight and he feels that he is responsible for her gaining weight. He has almost put the weight gain for the both of them on his shoulders and its weighing him down big time.
Should he stick around and try to make it work or should he cut his losses and stop trying to get her to do something she isn’t ready or willing to do. This as gone on for almost three years now and I don’t know if its going to get any better.
So what do you think he should do and how should they both handle this particular situation? What would you do if you were the boyfriend? What would you expect if you are the girlfriend?
Before and After of My Wife
Recommended for Women
- Getting Back In The Swing
- How Soon is Too Soon For Losing Weight
- Getting into Writing Mode – Welcome Back
- WHAT WHAT WHAT – WHAT is BACK!!!
- Wonderful Fitness Tips That May Help You Buy Your Perfect Physique
- Reaching Your Workout Goals With Some Straightforward Advice
- Fitness Designed Straightforward By Using These Basic Steps
- Change Your Physique With One Of These Excellent Physical fitness Tips!
- Fitness Does Not Need To Be So Time Intensive
- Methods For An Effective Exercise Program