So far, so good! Since I have been out o have to judge from being out of the blogging world for the past several months, ok years. I stepped back up to the plate and I haven’t hit a home-run yet but I am swinging and having good at bats.
We all go through our ups and downs and its just a matter of getting back in focus and doing what needs to be done. You are not going to always feel like doing the things you really need too but if you want the results you have no choice.
Take it Little By Little – Baby Steps
I know that many women may read this and say, what the heck is he talking about with the baseball and the swinging at the plate? Well simple, for to often we go from doing nothing to expecting to be experts or to be able to do what we once did.
Take my blogging for example, when I was fresh and starting out I was blogging every day and even writing content for places like Ezines, Squidoo, GoArticles, etc. You name it I was doing it. The problem is that things changes, my life changed, and new pieces where added to the same old puzzle and they didn’t fit.
I needed to adjust but didn’t know how so what happened was that I quit! Things got to me and I wasn’t getting the results I wanted however, nor was I giving it 150% like I was before either.
Rushing Into Too Fast Will Cause Problems
Let getting back on the saddle when it came to writing more blog posts there were several times when I tried to keeping churning out the content and it wasn’t there. I wasn’t able to come up with the quality and quantity that I once was capable of doing.
So once again I would quit because I was expecting too much too soon. At the time I really didn’t put two and two thing but over the months I started noticing that I had this fight or flight thing going on. It was all or nothing and more often then not it ended up being the nothing.
Pump Your Brakes – Easy Easy
Weight loss can be like blogging in that I see my wife and many other women expect too much too soon. Can you really go from eating a whole bunch of junk to cold turkey in a few days? Probably not! Are you going to go from not working out at all to working out 7 days a week for the long term, chances are you are going to fail.
Instead why not give yourself some goals that you can accomplish that will keep you spirit up and make you want to do more. Plan to be more active or exercise once or twice per week in the beginning and move up. Stick to only being able to eat sweets on certain days until you can wean yourself off fully.
The baby steps will help you walk and then run your way to the finish line to losing weight. Do set goals but not ones that you have no ways of completing in the beginning. This is just my opinion and what has work for my wife and other women I have helped lose weight.
Remember losing weight like everything is a process, a long term process. You will have to make several life long changes to get and keep the body you want. Start small and work your way up.
Plans for You and Weight Loss
If you want to lose weight find some activities that you find to be fun. Something you enjoy doing but will really give you that burn. For some woman it can be rollerblading, swimming, volleyball, lifting weights, or riding bikes.
The key is making sure you enjoy it enough to make you want to do it no matter what. For me its running, it gives me a burn but more and importantly that release I need from everything. When you find that thing, make sure you don’t use the terms workout or exercise because that makes it just seem like a bad idea.
Remember when you were young and you just did things that we fun like riding bikes, jump rope, running up and down the street chasing friends? Wasn’t that fun? Can you imagine how many calories you burned and didn’t even pay attention to it? Now however, if someone gives you a rope the first thing that comes to mind damn it I don’t feel like exercising. This is something we need to work on!
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Hello everyone! I would just like to say that is has been about a year since I seriously posted a blog here on Waist Hips and Thighs. When I say seriously I mean me taking time to put a post together that meant something.
A lot of things have happened since I have stepped away the most noticeable is that I kind of left my blog, readers, and online family out in the cold. While there is no excuse for doing so there are many reasons that I hope you all can understand.
The Lost of Our Baby
One of the things I though I could get over and still maintain the blog was that lost of our baby. My wife was only about 2 month pregnant when she had a miscarriage and while I know I handled it better than my wife I just didn’t feel like writing.
For a time I felt like there were so many other important things in life and the blog wasn’t one of them. Though I admit I am a bit of a introvert(well ok a BIG INTROVERT) the website was my way to open up and I just didn’t feel like opening up.
Talk the Talk – Walk the Walk
You can say that another reason I didn’t update my blog was because I didn’t feel like I was being true to my readers or myself. Go figure here I am talking about being healthy, losing weight and keeping it off and I was sitting around home eating, not working out and gaining weight.
To me it seemed as though I would have been being a hypocrite if I would have posted anything at that time of my life. So instead I bowed out gracefully until I got my act together and lets just say I am back and in full mode. I am ready to start posting and taking action.
Things that Have Happened While Away
Since I stopped posting on WHAT I have found a new love for SEO and all things digital. I actually started a new blog recently that needs some love as well and its my personal blog Thomas S. Moore.
My wife is now pregnant and we are expecting our first little bundle of joy together in April. I also got another job in digital marketing for a great company who treat me like family.
And last but not least we are looking to buy a home before this summer and the house hunting has begun. With that being said I have a lot of things that I would still like to update everyone on.
What to Expect Going Forward
Going forward Waist, Hips, and Thighs will get back to focusing on what I know best and live through which is the up and downs of weight loss with my wife. This will be a new chapter as I will now be able to look at it from the point of gaining pregnancy weight and how to get that body you had before.
I look forward to discussing the problems I see as well as some of the best solutions to problems the many women face. We will also look at how you can get the body you want and keep it without killing yourself at the gym or starving.
Waist, Hips and Thighs (WHAT!) is back and we are ready to roll. Expect a post before the end of this week and also expect to see me popping my head back into the scene where I check in on my fellow bloggers to see how they have been.
Almost forgot – going forward I will post less then I did before but the posts will be a little longer in length to cover as much as possible. If you have any suggestions for the site or something you wish me to discuss or research please let me know.
This week was a quiet one for me as my wife was on a vacation to New York with one of her best friends since high school. The funny thing is that being alone for those seven days allowed me to reflect on my wife’s weight lost journey.
Of course most people already know the benefits that losing weight can have on a person’s health but in what other ways does it make a difference?
Here are some photos my wife took while she was up in New York City! There are a lot more photos then I would care to look at but this woman loves taking pictures.
Losing Weight Makes You Feel More Confident
It’s amazing to see the transformation over my wife’s weight and confidence over the past few years. There were so many things she would have never attempted just a couple of years ago. Things like the rock climbing wall here at Boomers to going to the gym and working out around other people. She hated people seeing her struggle.
She no longer walks around with her ahead down hoping that the eyes are not on her because of the weight that she was carrying. Instead she welcomes all looks and questions because she is confident in herself and the way she looks.
Everything Just Seems to Fit Properly
Almost Gone are the days of never wanting to go anywhere because she had nothing to wear. The days of “I can’t wear this because it’s gotten too small or doesn’t fit right” are not as big a deal as they once were. Now it seems as though the clothes were made for her and she simply loves it.
No more buying something knowing she would have to take it to a seamstress to get it altered. Yes there are the occasional “this fits my waist but it’s too tight on my thighs”, but trust me, both my wife and I will happily live with this.
To Me She Just Seems Happy All the Time
Before my wife starting losing weight she looked unhappy all the damn time. It was like someone had permanently placed a rain cloud over her and it was just a thunderstorm every day. From the time she woke up I could just see it on her face. Her weight was just killing her. She dreaded waking up to only have to go to the closet and find something to wear to work.
Now it’s a completely different story! (Well the whole clothing thing that is. She still hates having to get up but it’s more because she’s not a morning person.)
Now getting up brings a new day, a great outfit to wear, no more worrying about the scale, something not fitting or seeing herself in the mirror and being disgusted. The woman I feel in love with so long ago is smiling more and is happy again.
It’s amazing that for so long I thought there was something I did wrong or could do to help her. Buying her sunglasses, purses, nice heels, going on vacations, and going out to eat weren’t the solution. Telling her I love her made her happy for the moment, but she wasn’t happy with herself and it was mostly because of her weight.
Some People Just Don’t Get It
People will tell you that you shouldn’t let your weight affect you! To them I say it’s easier said than done. Some will say it doesn’t bother them and that’s the same thing my wife SAID but her actions proved otherwise.
You see losing weight does make a difference, a big difference. Not just for health reasons (which should be #1) but for others as well such as how you look, how you feel, the confidence you have, and how most importantly you feel about yourself.
There is one thing that I know for sure and that’s the fact that my wife is a happier woman now than she was when she was almost 40lbs heavier. Our marriage is better because of her weight loss! To be honest she’s just easier to deal and communicate with.
No longer is everything a struggle or battle. Just seeing a smile on her face is enough for me to know that losing weight really does make a difference.
How about you? Has losing weight made a difference to you or someone else in your life? Do you think losing weight would make a difference to you?
Before there was Waist, Hips, & Thighs my wife and I were just two happy people living the college life and enjoying ourselves. We both were active as being on campus called for a lot of walking, partying and just simply being out and about just doing things. We never could seem to sit down.
That college would also be the first part of my wife’s story on the up and down of weight gain. You see when people talk about the freshmen 15-20 (gaining pounds freshmen) a lot seem to think or take it as a joke. All I have to say is go ask my wife about it and see if she thinks it’s a myth.
Being Active is Only Half the Battle
You know how people will tell you that you just need to be active, do more exercise, going to the gym and stuff like that? Well to be honest that ISH isn’t going to work miracles by itself! My wife was as active as a person could be. Walking to class, going to the gym, being a part of her sorority, and going to parties every weekend, she was very active.
She was so active that she never really paid attention to the garbage she was eating and how unhealthy her eating habits were. Of course being active help but it couldn’t stop her from gaining the pounds freshmen year of college.
You Can’t Out Exercise a Bad Diet
If you are new to my site then you probably have never read the statement above but it holds to be so very true. My wife didn’t sit on her ass on all the time like most but what she was eating was killing her and her self esteem.
From the $.50 hot wings and pizza slices from Five Star pizza to the late night drinking at parties and the fast food restaurants on the late nights coming from the clubs. The calories were just too much for her body to burn. Sure she was active but there isn’t enough dancing in the world that’s going to cover with a high calorie diet.
It’s Not About How Much Eat
Too many women are under the assumption that since they only ate a little bit (as my wife would say) that they shouldn’t be consuming a lot of calories. Well take a look at the calories in a meal from your favorite fast food place and then tell me if that is true. Those meals won’t usually fill you up but they sure do pack on the calories.
Before there was intermittent fasting and high intensity interval training for my wife there was a clear understanding that to lose weight she needed both exercise and a great diet. She finally figured this out her sophomore year in college and the fat started to slowly disappear. She was starting to get her life back and was happy again.
But then something happened that caused things to change……………that’s a whole other story.
NOTE: Let me know how you feel….Have you tried losing weight but just can’t seem to get it right? What are you doing wrong? What do you need help with? Leave a comment or question that’s what I am here for.
You know so much gets put into losing weight that women forget to enjoy life itself! For so long my wife’s focus was on losing weight that life simply passed her by for about 3 years. This weekend we decided to take a mini vacation to Ft. Lauderdale where we stayed at the B Hotel.
This was a great break for the both of us as we needed a break from our busy lives. With her working more hours then she cares too and me working full-time and running this site we tend to be very busy. It was great to unwind, relax and not have to worry about anything for a couple of days.
Are You Really Enjoying Life?
This is a question I ask because I remember a few years ago it seemed as though nothing my wife did made her “happy”. Being a man, she said I just didn’t understand where she was coming from. I was lost I didn’t understand if we were going on vacations, she was spending time with her girlfriends, and getting promoted at her job how she couldn’t be happy.
My wife was sick of how her body looked and how it made her feel. It didn’t matter how beautiful I told her she looked in the inside it was killing her. She hated her wide hips and thighs simply because nothing she bought ever seemed to fit and how nothing see did seemed to change her shape.
If she found clothing that fit her thighs and hips they were too big in the waist or the clothing just didn’t fit right at all. She would spend hours in the gym, go running 5 times a week and still there was no change. She felt miserable to say the least.
Those Where The Days
Gone are the days (not all of them) of my wife being upset with how she looked. She has been able to make drastic changes in her appearance and she is enjoying life to the fullest. It’s amazing how something like losing weight can have such an effect on a person.
She doesn’t have to worry about starving herself and enjoys eating all the foods she used to eat before. The difference now is that she has found a diet (read here) that works for her so she doesn’t feel like the odd ball when she goes out. She no longer spends hours in the gym doing cardio only to not see any results. Three times per week she does her turbulence training and in 20-30mins tops she’s done.
The weight has continuously come off and she is looking and feeling as beautiful and confident as ever. No her hips and thighs are not completely where she wants them but she knows what works for her and each week she is seeing continuous improvement.
This was a photo I took from the room window on Memorial Day. The horizon and sunrise reminds me of a new beginning for my wife, myself and this site. What gives you a sense of a new beginning?
This Weekend Was A Simple Reminder
For me it was a simple reminder of how far my wife had come over the years. The fear of going to the beach, wearing a bikini, going shopping or simply wearing a particular dress that made her insecure are almost completely gone. Not only is she losing weight but she’s happy, which is the most important thing of all!
She has found a balance in life that allows her to not have to kill herself in the gym, spend long hours doing cardio and most of all gives her results. Life shouldn’t be just about losing weight but its amazing how losing weight allows some people to actually live life.
Find your balance and enjoy life!
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