Over the weekend we celebrated my wife’s birthday and boy did she have a great time with her friends and family.  She says that her birthday should be celebrated for at least a whole week and on a good bday it should last the whole month.

Of course I would beg to differ only because I am the one that would be left paying for everything and would end up broke.  But over this week of celebration I saw her have a great time and I just sat back and watched how everyone seem to do to make the feel good.

What truly makes people have a good time?

As I enjoyed the festivities of my wife’s weeklong celebration of reverse aging I noticed something that was very scary.  It seemed as though everyone who was having a great time was consistently eating and eating and then eating some more.  I added up all the calories I thought one of her friends consumed in just one day and I swear it was about 3000-4000 calories easily and that didn’t include beverages.

I wondered if they were just having a good time because of the food and drinks or because of the people.  It was truly hard to figure out but I really understood more this week why so many people tend to gain weight and not understand why.

Birthday was great but the weekend didn’t end so well

Well my wife had a great time celebrating her 25^th birthday (reverse aging lol) with the family, friends and co-workers but things weren’t all great.  I had mentioned in a previous post that my wife and I were trying to have a baby and recently we discovered she might be pregnant so she scheduled a visit to her doctor.

However over the weekend she noticed that she was bleeding and though she is pregnant we don’t really know what to expect, as her bleeding could be a sign for a miscarriage.  She is just heartbroken at the moment but right now we just aren’t sure what is going to happen.

Well Try to Keep you Updated with Info

I will do my best to keep everyone updated and continue to post.  I made a promise to update and post with at least two posts per week so I still expect to be held to my word.  Hopefully I will have some good news on the next post.

So this weekend I heard from one of my friend’s who is having some problems in his relationship.  His girlfriend has gained some weight over the years and it is really causing a strain on their relationship.

I know, people are going to say something like but if he love her and all this stuff but I am not here to take sides.  The truth is he wasn’t the one who was complaining about the weight, SHE WAS!! The problem he has is that not only has she been complaining she hasn’t done anything to change the situation.

Why My Friend Never Said Anything Before

Well, truth be told both of them gained weight since they first met and I mean a lot of weight.  Of the years they both kind of just let themselves go and just made excuses for the gain. From being too busy to not having the money for gym memberships.

Eating out and eating out a lot caused them both to easily be 30-60lbs overweight.  At one point it seemed at though they both had accepted who they had become.  It was a similar situation as the one I experienced with my wife.

But Something Changed and Things Got Worse

What could make to people who love each, gained weight together, and are fighting over nothing become worse?  Well, how about when one person starts to lose weight and the other one doesn’t.  Talk about issues and long decisions about nothing that wont change.

My friend says that now more then ever they are consistently arguing about things and it seems to always go be to something about weight gain.  Whether its not going out to eat as much, needed clothes because he’s getting smaller and she’s getting larger to even her being less secure about the relationship because now she thinks he might cheat on her.

He’s stressed and its Killing them Both

He doesn’t know what to do at this point, he really loves this woman but he’s not happy.  The sad part is that he feels that it’s his fault and since they both gained weight and he feels that he is responsible for her gaining weight.  He has almost put the weight gain for the both of them on his shoulders and its weighing him down big time.

Should he stick around and try to make it work or should he cut his losses and stop trying to get her to do something she isn’t ready or willing to do.  This as gone on for almost three years now and I don’t know if its going to get any better.

So what do you think he should do and how should they both handle this particular situation?  What would you do if you were the boyfriend?  What would you expect if you are the girlfriend?