The ups and downs of life – Birthday and Pregnancy

Over the weekend we celebrated my wife’s birthday and boy did she have a great time with her friends and family.  She says that her birthday should be celebrated for at least a whole week and on a good bday it should last the whole month.

Of course I would beg to differ only because I am the one that would be left paying for everything and would end up broke.  But over this week of celebration I saw her have a great time and I just sat back and watched how everyone seem to do to make the feel good.

What truly makes people have a good time?

As I enjoyed the festivities of my wife’s weeklong celebration of reverse aging I noticed something that was very scary.  It seemed as though everyone who was having a great time was consistently eating and eating and then eating some more.  I added up all the calories I thought one of her friends consumed in just one day and I swear it was about 3000-4000 calories easily and that didn’t include beverages.

I wondered if they were just having a good time because of the food and drinks or because of the people.  It was truly hard to figure out but I really understood more this week why so many people tend to gain weight and not understand why.

Birthday was great but the weekend didn’t end so well

Well my wife had a great time celebrating her 25^th birthday (reverse aging lol) with the family, friends and co-workers but things weren’t all great.  I had mentioned in a previous post that my wife and I were trying to have a baby and recently we discovered she might be pregnant so she scheduled a visit to her doctor.

However over the weekend she noticed that she was bleeding and though she is pregnant we don’t really know what to expect, as her bleeding could be a sign for a miscarriage.  She is just heartbroken at the moment but right now we just aren’t sure what is going to happen.

Well Try to Keep you Updated with Info

I will do my best to keep everyone updated and continue to post.  I made a promise to update and post with at least two posts per week so I still expect to be held to my word.  Hopefully I will have some good news on the next post.

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Following up on Last Post – Lose Weight or Get Pregnant

Remember a about two posts ago I wanted to let my readers know what my wife and I had been discussing for the months where I was M.I.A.  One of those things was what should she do as far as losing more and wanting to get pregnant.

The dilemma was that it had already been hard for my wife to lose the last 15-20lbs.  She still hates her thighs even though she has lost over 40+ plus over the last few years.  Well now she is caught between wanted to get those last few pounds out of the way and getting pregnant.

Really I don’t Know How to Answer This

She asked me a few times what I think she should do?  Well to be honest I know what I would do and what I WANT to say but its tough.  I have lived with my wife through the ups and downs of her weight but know how much getting pregnant means to her.

I feel as though she is so close to getting to her goal weight that a few more months would be worth it.  Then I think of how see looks at little babies and how happy she is when she is around her nephews and nieces.   Its easy for me to say just lose the weight and wait but then how long will it really take her to lose the 20lbs.  Not to mention no sooner then she loses it she will be putting it back on.

This Really Sucks but is a Great Situation

Yeah this really sucks if you have to help make a decision because I feel like if I say one thing I wont be being honest however if I say wait on getting pregnant and having a baby she might think am just selfish.  On the other hand it’s a great situation for the both of us.

If she decides to go after her goal and lose the last few pounds she gets the body she has always wanted (I will be happy too) and on the other hand we will be looking forward to having our on little bundle of joy (of course I will be even more happier).

What do you think is the best thing to do?  Would you go with just putting off having a child now and losing the last few pounds or would you just wait on the weight and try to have a baby and lose the weight afterwards?

Problems with Losing Weight and Girlfriends

So this weekend I heard from one of my friend’s who is having some problems in his relationship.  His girlfriend has gained some weight over the years and it is really causing a strain on their relationship.

I know, people are going to say something like but if he love her and all this stuff but I am not here to take sides.  The truth is he wasn’t the one who was complaining about the weight, SHE WAS!! The problem he has is that not only has she been complaining she hasn’t done anything to change the situation.

Why My Friend Never Said Anything Before

Well, truth be told both of them gained weight since they first met and I mean a lot of weight.  Of the years they both kind of just let themselves go and just made excuses for the gain. From being too busy to not having the money for gym memberships.

Eating out and eating out a lot caused them both to easily be 30-60lbs overweight.  At one point it seemed at though they both had accepted who they had become.  It was a similar situation as the one I experienced with my wife.

But Something Changed and Things Got Worse

What could make to people who love each, gained weight together, and are fighting over nothing become worse?  Well, how about when one person starts to lose weight and the other one doesn’t.  Talk about issues and long decisions about nothing that wont change.

My friend says that now more then ever they are consistently arguing about things and it seems to always go be to something about weight gain.  Whether its not going out to eat as much, needed clothes because he’s getting smaller and she’s getting larger to even her being less secure about the relationship because now she thinks he might cheat on her.

He’s stressed and its Killing them Both

He doesn’t know what to do at this point, he really loves this woman but he’s not happy.  The sad part is that he feels that it’s his fault and since they both gained weight and he feels that he is responsible for her gaining weight.  He has almost put the weight gain for the both of them on his shoulders and its weighing him down big time.

Should he stick around and try to make it work or should he cut his losses and stop trying to get her to do something she isn’t ready or willing to do.  This as gone on for almost three years now and I don’t know if its going to get any better.

So what do you think he should do and how should they both handle this particular situation?  What would you do if you were the boyfriend?  What would you expect if you are the girlfriend?

Just what has been going on?

Well like I stated I haven’t updated the site in a while other than a post I made a few days ago.  To be honest I just got lazy and started putting everything else first and not making time to blog.  My wife has lost another 2lbs pounds and I am really excited for her.

So as far as me being missing in action for a couple of months here is the short run down of things that went on.  My son’s birthday was in June so there was planning for that along with looking for a new jobs which I currently work at.  Of course with looking for a new job we had to make plans for how my son was going to spend summer break and then came father’s day.

Along Came the Fourth of July…Fireworks

Well unlike everyone else who celebrates the 4^th I tend to do it a little bit different.  You see for the country the 4^th of July is a way to celebrate Independence Day but for my brother and I it’s our birthday.  So July became a busy month in planning for trips and having a nice party for the two of us.  NO we aren’t twins he was just born on my birthday and I guess you can say he was the biggest present I have gotten so far.

August Just Seemed to Fly By…No sure What happened

August was just one of those months that I really don’t remember much of what happened.  It came and went and to be honest all I remember is putting in my two weeks notice at my old job and my son starting middle school.  Other than that the month was a blur.

Sin City in September…A Few Friends and I Did Vegas for Labor Weekend

A couple of my close friends and I went to Vegas and partied like there was no tomorrow.  I think there should be a law against the amounts of alcohol we drank while we were there.  We arrived on Thursday and from that point on it was not stop fun.  Eating, drinking, partying, and we sleep whenever we could (not much sleep happened though).

We Decided We Should Have a Little One

And of course the biggest thing that happened while I was away from blogging was that my wife and I decided to have a baby.  Well we want to try so that before the end of the year she is actually pregnant.  This one what most of my time spent on which was focusing on what we need to do and how we need to plan.  More about that in a later post and more about our upcoming trip as well.  Of course we will always talk about weight loss and diets.  Until later enjoy your week.

Its Been a Long Time…but I'm BACKKKK!!!!

So sorry for the Long Break Let Me Explain

Ok well there’s no excuse I just haven’t written on my site for almost six months just because I didn’t make time for it.  To be honest for a minute I got tired of updating and dealing with all the spam I was getting.

I don’t think I have updated my site since June…hmmm let me think?   Yeah it was June because I didn’t even say Happy Father’s day to anyone on the site.  Well while I was away a lot of great things have been happening.  I got a new job, my son starting playing acoustic guitar, I went to Las Vegas for a week, and my wife and I decided that this year we are planning to have our first child together.

Things won’t be the Same as they Were

Yes the blog well still focus on weight loss for women, you will still get up dates on how my wife is doing and what programs she is using I will also still update with pictures of her and us from time to time.  The changes will be that I plan to be a little more personal so that people know that I am a real person, I am married to a loving women, have a great son, and though I try to help my wife with her weight loss there is always a road block from time to time.

The great new is that I will also be updating more regularly and giving you shorter post so that you can read the without fearing a 700 word post to drive you insane.  This site is for the ladies though it’s being written from a husband’s point of view.  Remember guys you have to give you input as well be our girl friend or wife needs to understand how we feel as well.  Remember if she goes through it you go through so it’s best to make it as painless as possible.

Come back soon And I will have a post about the BABY!!!!

Yeah we are planning to have a baby…ok working it anyways.  But I want to let you in on some of the discussions and concerns both my wife and I have had and hopefully to get some input from YOU.  Look forward to being back!!!!